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Since I am a girl, I do know on first hand experience that guys do have a whole lot more freedom than Hmong girls. Most of this is due to the image of a good Hmong girl. In order to be one, girls have to stay home, clean the house and watch the kids. Boys are not excepted to do house work, rahter they are the ones who do the field work. Yet since we are in American, there are no fields to work on, so pretty much boys don't have those expectations that Hmong girls do. I feel that there shoud be a balance, but I also feel that it wouldn't happen anytime soon. I just hope that our parents will be able to better understand that we are also Americans now. Maybe Hmong girls will be able to go out more in the near future, maybe not. But when you have your own girls, remember that they deserved to have a little fun too.

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hmong boys are privileged. at least in my family they are. first of all, they're more encouraged to do stuff--join sports, be involved in school, go away for college--and they also have more rights and say in the family. the girls are supposed to be subservient and obedient, while the guys have the chance to go out with their friends and do whatever they want. i understand the fact that this cultural stigma has probably been in effect for centuries, it's just that now, here in the us, girls and guys alike are given more opportunities tht the hmong culture and its traditions cannot deal with. this isn't fair to anybody--it's not fair to the girls, to the guys, nor to the hmong people itself because now THEY have to deal with this issue.Ethe treatment between hmong boys and girls is very different. it's really unfair because they boys get to do basically whatever they want. the girls, on the other hand, have to stay at home, cook, clean, and watch all of her 50 little brothers and sisters. being a hmong girl isn't that easy. i think that american girls have it so much easier. another factor is that hmong girls are getting married so young, even today. so that may be another reason why our parents don't trust is around guys and our friends. also, parents' reputations rely not only on themselves but their children. that's another reason why people don't want us going out so late and doing things. being a hmong girl, i stopping hanging out with friends once i got into 7th grade. then i had to start staying home, cleaning, and cooking for the rest of my family. even now it's still like that. my parents always think that if i start dating then it's going to ruin my school work, i'm going to get married, all of the above. but with my brothers, they're always okay with it. maybe the problem may be that i'm also the youngest child

I believe that the privileges that hmong boys have outweights the girls'. This I truly believe because even my brother admitted it. The boys are more likely to be trusted to go out and play at night, and their curfews are extended longer than the girls'. I think that because a lot of hmong girls get pregnant at a very young age it makes the girl's parents not trust in her or any other girls. But I think that is very unfair that just because some girls are getting pregnant and having sex at a young age, that it doesn't mean the girls get less privileges. I bet if boys can get pregnant, then more boys would be carrying around a ten-pound belly+baby. If our parents was to walk in us girls' shoes, then I think they'll understand that we deserve to be trusted with more privileges. For example, boys are the ones drinking. Yeah girls drink too, but not as much as the boys. I don't understand how parents can trust in drinking teens like the average hmong boys. Anyway my point is done here. One last thing is that I think if more teens speak out then maybe our goal can be won.

Ehm...what can be done to change this...well, i think that change should be gradual, the change in the status of hmong girls/women in society should not just come overnight (it's not anyways, but..). looking around, you could already see the change that is taking place. slowly, the hmong woman is taking a stand: through education, family matters, etc. now it's the hmong male that has to deal with this change.

Hmong boys can go out (to play, have a date, party)more than Hmong girls. It's because the parents don't know that this is America and that girls have the same rights as the boys too.

As the years passes, the elders are starting to recongize the American's life style and are beginning to accept it. More parent seemed to understand their children and are willing to support them. But I have to say, not all Hmong parents are as understanding. For an example my parent are so old fashion, being a teen hmong girl is difficulty. I couldn't stay out late or go to parties. I couldn't even attend school dances. I was always told that I was suppose to stay home, clean the house, and cook for the family. If I didn't obey their rules, I was said to be a bad daughter and that noone would ever want to marry me. There was a lot I couldn't do, while my brothers did what they wanted to do. I believe that my parent felt it was more important that the guys have more privileges because they would bring the wives home and carry on the last name while the girls get married and leave. I don't think there's anything we can do. We can talk about it, but we can't change someone if they're not willing too. when I tried talking to my parent about these kinds of issues, they never listen. They think they're right and I'm wrong. If I talk back then it would make me look bad. Oh before I go, I just wanted to know...why is it ok if a guy calls a girl but it's wrong for a girl to call the guy? I think it shouldn't even matter.

The privileges that hmong boys have that hmong girls dont have is that they can go play and stuff as long as they want and girls really cant go anywhere and the girls have to do all the things in the house and the boys dont. I don't think thats fair but im lucky i can go places but most girls and some boys can't even step outside the house and stuff.. yeah thats about it

hmoob boys are not so reliant on to take care of the family as hmoob girls are.hmoob boys are expected to go out and earn for the family while the girls are expected to take care of the family.although this may not be so fair,it is how things go with the hmoob tradition,so as i've been taught.there is not much we can do about this situation but leave it as it is.because for number one....most of the older generation are not so americanized yet so they stick with the old ways