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"I think that Hmong teenagers getting married young is not a good idea. For the fact that divorce rate is increasing and how do two young adults survive on very low income. Finishing school and going on to college is the best solution to making it in the U.S. today."

"I think the traditional hmong wedding is a part of who we are.." - Anonymous

"In my opinion I don't think marrying early is the greatest thing. It recks the life of those who got married young. I've seen so many of my friends do this and their parents are the one who forces them to marry because of one wrong action. I think it's a very sad thing since the parents don't support the teens. I also think that Hmong wedding are out of paportion." - Anonymous

For Hmong's marriages, I won't consideres to be good or bad. It's depends on we each individual how we felt about marriage. I think that every individual knows what she/he is doing. Anyway back Laos and Thailand most Hmong teens married at the age of 14 or 15. For me as my opinion toward marriage for our Hmong, I want to see everyone succed in something. For example succeed in such as eduaction, which is a very good thing for us, instead of getting marry and have kids start your life too young. -Alpha

"As a Hmong person, I highly value and respect my culture. I would perfer to have a tradition Hmong wedding in appreciation of my supportive parents, families, and friends. Getting married young or old isn't a good or bad thing. What makes marriage a good and bad thing s who you chose to married, how you socialize with each other, and how you support yourself and your family." -Stephany of California.

"I think it is suck because many of the Hmong teens in this country are getting married too early and not getting an education. Many whom could of have a bright future and became wealthy end up welfare." - Anonymous

"I THINK THAT YOUNG MARRIAGES TODAY ARE STILL AS COMMON AS THEY WERE BACK THEN. ITS NOTHING NEW TO THE HMONG PEOPLE ITS ALWAYS BEEN AROUND AND I THINK THAT IT WILL CONTINUE FOR A VERY VERY LONG TIME." - Anonymous

"Well i think Hmong Marrages are ideal... But its up to u to decide if u want to have it that way... Its called culture diffusion....I think gettin marry young is a bad image for hmong... would any hmong teen go to talk with a person that they.." -Thoj

"I believe that being married at an early age is a distruction to your life. I mean there is so many things that you still have to do in life, and getting married stands in the way of it. It takes away things that you may never do anymore!" -Akani

"Well...personally I think that there are too many young adults getting married today. I understand that it is tradition to get married young etc...but even those that understand the consequences of such a decision still goes ahead and gets married. What confuses me most is that everybody should know what the risks of getting married young is but they still go ahead and do it. think twice about it." - Anonymous

"I would like to say that no matter what has been said or done, it is still a crisis among family agendas. I believe I do have a moral responsibility to say that as young married person, I would like to say that if you choose to wed, please finish school first." -Shong

"There are so many factors on why Hmong teens get married so young, some are for the stupiest reason. Some are reason such has family problems where the girl may not have mucy freedom in her life. I think that to better the future of us Hmong people we should come up with programs that will help Hmong teens rather than letting them find another solution to their problems." -Ada Vang

"I think Hmong teenagers are getting marry too young. Get marry too young is bad.. Here's why: - Lack of education - Lack of finnacial aide - Divorce increase - Lack of communication - Unable to compete with other peoples - Teen marry for sex only

* I wish all the Hmong teens can get marry after graduated from college*" Kao Li

"I feel that Hmong people that get married young make the biggest mistake of their life. I am speaking from experince. I am married with two childdren. I am only 19 years old. I regret it everyday of my life. I have a good job, a good husband and a very good family but deep down inside I know that I made a big mistake and I can't take it back. I see alot of young teens that get married and not relaize what they are doing. I feel that we should be more knowlege and not just get married because of some kind of reason. We need to know what love is before we decide about marriage. We need to be ready and prepare to make that commitment. I understand that when you are young and lose you do stupid things like that but I know how every married couple feels when they are married too young. I just want to help Hmong people so that they are able to learn and explore the world before marriage and have children. I hope that I didn't affend anyone in any way. I just want to speak out for the Hmong teenagers to be careful before they make the mistake that I made." - Anonymous

"Hmong weddindgs are my ideal weddings. I want a hmong wedding when I marry, it's traditional, and I believe in what we Hmong do." -Ms. Moon Vue.

"1. Married is good when you are ready.2. Wedding is a sign for both to remember that they are nolonger single any more.3.Getting marry too young (age between 13-17) is bad due to the fact that you do not know how to plan for your future life yet. You are only know how to make love with your patner and you r not ready for your life.4. If you are over 18 year and prepare for your life and know how to support yourselve than you may ready to get married." - Anonymous

"Hmong Marraiges are ideal. It is good that the Groom has to show his repects towards the Bride's family. The ceremonies aren't too bad, but they can use a little boost on "FUN". I think getting married young can and can not be good; It all depends on how you and your spouse lead your lives. I'm not saying that you have to have a lot of money or anything like that. You both must be willing to network with each other to build your future and love each other." - Anonymous

"One of the bad for marry too early is: YOu'll never have a good education. And enough money to support the family. But it's good because you have chance to see your kids and your kids generation.If you marry too late. It's good because youhave a high education and you can support your family easily. But by he time you graduate as 10 years. After College you probably 30-40, will you old. And you son only 25 years old you are going to died. YOu never have chance to see your son's kids..." -Carol Ronger

"As a young person you need to experience life before you decide to settle down and have a wife or husband and a family of your own." - Anonymous

"hmong marriages is a traditional which will carry on the family name and genes.if we were married in hmong culture, yes i think it is an ideal wedding day; however, if the couple were to be married in america culture. no i would not agreed, and getting married at a young age is up to the couple decision.if the couple decided to be married at younger age, and i guessed it is their prior goal is to be happy. and if they think that eduation is the #1; they should set it aside until they know the reality of being married." -Xiong

"What do you think? So, you want to see the change right away? I think we have changed a lot, about getting married. Yes, a lot of our young couples married when they were teenagers. However, many of us willing to unjust that. Think bout it, have you ever ask your friends if they want to get married? Many of them responded that they will need to accomplish a few dreams or gaols, or perhaps they said they are not ready. These kinds of responses indicate that we want to make a change. But you know, it's too soon for us to change, because our lives are still influenced by our parents, who have this view of getting marry early is ok." -Vang

"You don't get a good life because some parents force you to get married. You don't get to choose the man you marry, so what if you don't like the person? I would rather choose myhusband." -Tracey Vang

"Totally appreciate all the tedious traditions that go with a Hmong wedding, but the alcohol has got to go. I would hate to wake up with a groom who has a hangover. And for those of you who are getting married young, you are missing out on real (college) life! Be smarter and you'll have more fun and see the world! Think about it!" - Anonymous

"Hmong marriage is okay. It's still a tradition that I feel it's important to go through for the sake of the value of the culture. What can you tell your children or grandchildren if you dont' have a traditional marriage celebration?" - Anonymous

"I think Hmong marriages are too rough. I don't understand why the parents make the groom drinks until he gets drunk.I think getting married young is bad because you or that person is just throwing away their life, but it's really up to that person." - Anonymous

"I just recently got married to a guy that is not Hmong and my parents aren't too happy about it. I just wish that someday, all Hmong parents would realize that we don't have to get married to our own race. As long as we find someone that we love..." - Anonymous

"I don't like Hmong marriages. I prefer american with a small mixture of Hmong. I feel that arranged marriages which still happen today are wrong." - Anonymous

"I think the ones that get married so early are those that don't know what they're doing. Some guys are too scared they might lose their girl to another guy or something. And some are just playing stupid, like those gangsters that don't have a life because they dropped out of school or get in trouble and get thrown in jail. The ones that are dedicated to eduacation will know when they want to get marry." - Anonymous

"HEY, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HMONG WEDDINGS. GETTING MARRIED YOUNG IS NORMAL FOR HMONGS. AGE IS JUST A NUMBER. PLUS, DO YOU REALLY WANT TO STOP THIS HMONG CULTURE THAT HAS BEEN IN EXISTENCE FOR THOUSANDS OF YEARS?" - Anonymous

"The hardest thing about Hmong marriage to me is the $$,$$$. Though Hmong parents keep denying, Hmong marriage is a traditional market of Hmong girlsis about 50 cents. The cost of the "nqi taubhau" alone back there was ranging from $250 to $500. Now it is ranging from $5,000 to $15,000 as I know. Do your math and you will see that there is no any other market on earth could make such a jump (2,000% - 3,000% increase).Yeah, they say, "But we return the money." Lucky, if you even get up to 25% of what you spent in return without any strings attached." - Anonymous

"Hmong (traditional) Marriages are a waste of time and money. People get married so early and those marriages aren't even regarded as being worthy..." - Anonymous

"we have a beautiful culture and unique traditions...that's what defines us hmong." - Anonymous

"The wedding is nice. I mean, it is a part of our culture and we should keep to the Hmong marriage. Then agian, we should consider who gets married. HELLO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Getting married at age.......what, 14! You are still a kid. You haven't even been able to live yet. Then you go and have a kid.....couldn't even wait to have sex. Well yeah, that's all i gots to say!" - Anonymous

Linda Lee